Maintaining good personal hygiene is vital for both health and cleanliness. How often people bathe varies\u2014some prefer daily showers, others a few times per week. But for one reader, the issue runs deeper: her husband only showers once a week, and it\u2019s causing growing concern in their marriage.<\/p>\n
The reader shared her story in search of advice.
\n\u201cMy husband works five days a week but only showers on weekends. I\u2019ve mentioned he starts to smell by midweek, but he just says he\u2019s too tired after work.\u201d<\/p>\n
They\u2019ve been married for about a year and a half. In the beginning, she didn\u2019t think much of it. With opposing work schedules\u2014she worked mornings, he worked nights\u2014she rarely saw his routine. When she started working from home a few months later, she realized he only showered once a week. Still, he didn\u2019t smell and changed clothes daily, so she let it slide at first.<\/p>\n
However, over time, it began to bother her, especially at night. She tried dropping hints like suggesting a refreshing shower due to the weather, but he never responded. His idea of hygiene was washing his face each morning, and although she personally showered daily, she worried it would be rude to criticize his habits.<\/p>\n
Things became more difficult when he switched to a physically demanding day job. He came home sweaty but still didn\u2019t shower. \u201cIt grossed me out,\u201d she admitted. But it wasn\u2019t until she became pregnant that she finally confronted the issue directly.<\/p>\n
\u201cI told him I might be extra sensitive during pregnancy, but asked him to shower at least three times a week.\u201d She emphasized the importance of hygiene for her own comfort and for the baby\u2019s well-being. Surprisingly, he agreed. She was relieved and wished she\u2019d spoken up sooner. During her pregnancy and after the baby\u2019s birth, her husband was supportive and caring.<\/p>\n
However, after things settled down, he returned to his old habit.
\nAfter long workdays, he would come home sweaty, change his clothes, and pick up their newborn without showering. \u201cIt made me cringe. I was worried about germs and bacteria that could harm the baby.\u201d<\/p>\n
It wasn\u2019t just the shower frequency anymore\u2014he began to develop noticeable body odor. \u201cHis hair was greasy, and even his one weekly shower couldn\u2019t mask the sweat.\u201d She finally confronted him one night. After expressing her long-held frustrations, she called him \u201cgross\u201d and \u201cdisgusting.\u201d He seemed stunned, and she instantly regretted the harshness of her words.<\/p>\n
To her shock, he claimed he had never changed his hygiene routine nor agreed to shower more frequently. This left her questioning her memory and wondering if she had imagined his agreement. In tears, she reminded him of their earlier conversation, but he denied it. He left the room while she cried herself to sleep with their baby.<\/p>\n
After reflecting, she realized she may have misunderstood.
\nHe had been using alcohol to clean himself instead of showering\u2014his way of trying to meet her halfway. They both apologized. When she asked him why he refuses to shower more often, he gave an unexpected response: \u201cI don\u2019t want to wash off my manliness.\u201d She was left stunned.<\/p>\n
Now, she\u2019s more direct. She insists he shower at least three times weekly due to the smell. Yet he continues to dismiss her, claiming exhaustion from work. Things reached a breaking point when she saw his shirt covered in dirt and flakes of dead skin. \u201cThis isn\u2019t just about the smell,\u201d she told him. \u201cThis is a health issue.\u201d Still, he dismissed her concerns and went to bed.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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